which I love. And blogs have been going crazy for a dress like this...
Anzevino + Florence "Ice Cream" Dress
from http://www.shopnastygal.com
from http://www.shopnastygal.com
which admittedly is not likely my "look" anyway. But, that's not the point! That didn't stop me from ordering it and trying it on in the hopes I could reimagine myself all over again, this time, apparently as a flounced girl hopping through flowers in a dress we've named "ice cream." The point is something more like this: I have breasts. I suffer.
U.S. Vogue tries to help, one month a year, by hosting their "Style at Every Size" issue that includes a couple well-breasted girls and tells us how to dress them. But the trouble is, having breasts in our culture turns out to mean something like "I am a *woman.*" and the problem for me is, that kind of woman I don't always want to be. There are times, like Thanksgiving, when a friend has ridden the train all the way across the western coast of our continent to get to my house and spend the holiday with me, when I want to put on my vintage New Look of the 40's dress for dinner (only to discover so much turkey isn't a good idea with that cinched-in waist). But much of the time I prefer to imagine myself more like Kate up there. A kind of feminist-femininity morphing how we think of androgyny. That is, trying to escape the sometimes over-determined fashion possibilities of womanhood by sliding closer, in style, to sometimes David Bowie, and sometimes Patti Smith. It's clear to me in thinking this way "dressing like a cosmopolitan" is not the appropriate inspiration, even if I wanna pull that off sometime. Instead, I'll have to turn on a song like "Because the Night" in repeat with "Angel of the Morning" and maybe an occasional rendition of Pat Benetar's "Invincible", and then remind myself of images like these...
U.S. Vogue tries to help, one month a year, by hosting their "Style at Every Size" issue that includes a couple well-breasted girls and tells us how to dress them. But the trouble is, having breasts in our culture turns out to mean something like "I am a *woman.*" and the problem for me is, that kind of woman I don't always want to be. There are times, like Thanksgiving, when a friend has ridden the train all the way across the western coast of our continent to get to my house and spend the holiday with me, when I want to put on my vintage New Look of the 40's dress for dinner (only to discover so much turkey isn't a good idea with that cinched-in waist). But much of the time I prefer to imagine myself more like Kate up there. A kind of feminist-femininity morphing how we think of androgyny. That is, trying to escape the sometimes over-determined fashion possibilities of womanhood by sliding closer, in style, to sometimes David Bowie, and sometimes Patti Smith. It's clear to me in thinking this way "dressing like a cosmopolitan" is not the appropriate inspiration, even if I wanna pull that off sometime. Instead, I'll have to turn on a song like "Because the Night" in repeat with "Angel of the Morning" and maybe an occasional rendition of Pat Benetar's "Invincible", and then remind myself of images like these...
did you really order the dress and try it on? i would love to have seen that on you.
ReplyDeleteit might be that i'm just jaded, but it seems to me that the 'feminine' looks which i can only describe as 'flouncy and sweet as sugar-coated kittens running in a field of daisies under a rainbow' are less versatile and creative than those you invoke with references of patti smith, bowie, and the 'kate' line. yeah, pretty dresses are pretty and all, but sometimes pretty is uninteresting.
I don't even remember what you were wearing for Thanksgiving. I was reminiscing about the smokefish earlier today though.
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